Breaking The Mold ( I’m Not Made To Be In a Box)

Breaking The Mold ( I’m Not Made To Be In a Box)

I keep asking myself! Why do I keep running back to the same places that hurt me, and ther keep throwing off track? I know telling myself that this time will be much different, and that my  walk with God is getting stronger that ever before, but what is the problem that really lies down on the inside of my heart?

Life apart from God is a life that is without purpose, a life without joy, and a life without happiness. I never folded this time in walking my life out with God, but I have made some major, and minor mistakes that keeps wrecking my hekart, and I have finally threw both of my hands up, and I am saying enough is enough.


I thought I was ready to be in a relationship again all because someone told me that God sent me to them, and that we were suppose to get married; but when I started seeking God He revealed a few things to me in His silence.

These Key principles this week taught me that I am only allowing my ears to surrender to what god has been telling me this entire time. This morning I was searching on google ” Dating the wrong guy.” and this article poped up!


 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28

Whenever I am thinking on or praying about relationships, mine or other peoples, this verse is always an excellent foundation. God makes things work for your good, and that includes your dating life. If you trust in Him and listen to what he says about relationships, He will work for your good.

Dating is complicated, tricky, testing and can be a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. But it can also be joyful and Christ honouring. Doing it right is flipping hard and requires some serious dedication. I’m not claiming to have this down, or to always get it right. In fact, I feel able to talk and write about this topic precisely because I have got it wrong so many times and God has consistently shown me grace and turned my mistakes into good.

I have found that the main challenges facing Christian girls (and the ones I struggled with HUGELY) are dating non-Christians, not having sex before you’re married, and the christian relationship myth! I’ll briefly touch on these three things from what I’ve learnt in my own experiences.

But honestly, the main lesson I’ve learnt is a difficult one: it’s frustrating and easy to pretend it’s not true, but God’s way is the best way, like it or not.

Ready? Let’s go… Read more On Girl Got Faith


I know when I was going further in talking things over with God he instructed me to go to Deuteronomy 5:18, and literally felt all the word of this scripture through my veins. I did not know what to do with it; so i tried to keep the relationship side of things on my in non sexual like just kissing without the added intimacy. But all faied when the person that I was seeing flt like going there, and I told him that I was not wanting to have sex, and e went further, and I got up, and told him that I was done, and that I did not want to see him anymore.


Here’s the core lessons that I’ve learned from this! 

  • When God speaks listen the first time

  • Do not try to re-work something that is not hand picked by God for your life

  • Stop trying to justify why you can’t live without it

  • Trust God in all things without wavering

  • Release the residue

  • Fight hard in prayer, and in healing to break the soul tie

  • Don’t beat yourself up over the mistake

  • Accept your part on what took place

  • Grow from the lesson

I know that God is calling mek into a place of solitude in order for me to bloosom into the Woman that He has design for me to be in His Kingdom; so I am going on a new journey of self discipline, and self care in a more deeper way.