Singles, Saved and Standing in Salvation
(Guest Blog Post) By: Hanah St.Rose
You Can Stand in Strength & Glory
In this world filled with so many temptations and worldly desires, I know from my own personal experience how it can be difficult to stand on the word of God or even live a life of purity. Although, temptation and fleshly desires try to creep up know that the Lord is with you. It may look like the world is having fun doing ungodly things, but remember woman of God you are not of this world. It clearly states in Romans 12:2 (NLT)
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
You don’t have to follow the customs of this world. God has given you so many treasures and supernatural wisdom. God has given you his word to follow which holds power and can help you through any circumstance. God’s word especially during your single season can help you navigate and to stand strong as you go through this season with great expectation. So, don’t keep God’s word on your shelf. Have God’s word with you everywhere you go and constantly in your mind, so your mind can be renewed. In order to stand in salvation and stand strong in this season you will have to keep the word of God in the forefront of your mind. You don’t have to fear making mistakes during your single season because God has sent you the Holy Spirit to guide you at all times and to even give you a nudge to help you go in the right direction. Staying single with passion, purity, and purpose isn’t impossible. Here are a few key steps to help you stay kingdom minded during your glorious single season.
Key Steps To Help You
● You have to take steps to watch what you view daily on television. You have to also watch what you listen to. What you put into your soul and spirit matters. Ask yourself daily is this television show honorable, Godly, and helpful? Will this show or song tempt me in anyway? Is this song a song I should listen to? Will this push me to God or pull me away from him?
● Make sure you watch the friends you hang around. Take time to pray for divine Godly connections that will guide you closer to God and encourage you to obey the Lord. Ask yourself daily is this a friend you would want for this particular season of your life? If you have a particular friend that isn’t for a certain season in your life ask God to show you how to part ways respectfully. Also, find ways to step away without being rude. Your friendships matter and they will influence the choices you make.
● Take time out of your day to be intentional with spending time with God and reading your Bible. The enemy’s intention is to distract you and detour your destiny. You can write out scriptures to help you stay strong in the things of the Lord. Take time to wake up a few minutes early before you even start your day. You can set out a time each day or even a few minutes to talk with God.
● Also, how you respect your body and mind as a temple of God matters. Make sure during your single season you are encouraging yourself and respecting yourself through Christ. Know that you are loved by the Lord deeply and that you are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. Daily ask yourself am I loving who I am in Christ to the core? Am I settling in any area of my life? Am I noticing myself down or even overly frustrated? Meditate on what the Bible says about purity, wholeness, healing, and freedom. As, you keep your mind on all of this you will see changes develop within your spirit.
● Take time to ask God what areas in your life especially during your single season that you need to work on. When you take time out to figure out what God is speaking to you about it will keep your heart in order. You can write in a journal or type on your computer what God is speaking to you about. If you need help with having more confidence in God or if you are dealing with hopelessness. Take time to ask God to reveal the root to you. As, you notice God speaking to you take steps to combat any weak areas you might be dealing with.
● Make sure you are conversing with other Christian believers. When we work together in community and worship together we can learn from one another and lift each other up. Also, pray to get into Bible study groups or pray to God about sending you a Godly mentor to help you. Look for Bible study groups and Christian events that can help you stay connected to the things of the Lord. There are many Christian ministries that focus on singleness, God, and also biblical principles to help you. Look for some and even if you have to write it down to keep tabs of it please do. Take initiative to do whatever God leads you to do so you can stay on a strong path with Christ.
● You can take steps to serve at your church or even in your community. Take time to pray about it, but God could be leading you to help someone else in a new way. Ask, God during prayer or even fast time what area you should serve in. You might even be called in your single season to help an elderly neighbor or even a young mother who needs help with her children. God will show you what to do just trust him and wait on him to answer, but do find someone to serve daily.
● Find time to see how your heart is about relationships. Don’t rush into a relationship because you may feel like you have been single for a long time. Take time to learn about you no matter how long the wait is. Take time to consecrate yourself with the Lord and emerging yourself in his love.
● God doesn’t want you to barely make it through your single season. He wants you to find joy through each part of this journey. He wants to change your perspective as you walk this season out.
● God always shares secrets to his children as they seek him. Being single and saved is a wonderful gift. Through Christ Jesus you have the strength to sustain and keep healthy boundaries in every area of your life for yourself as you seek God daily.
● Being a single Christian is an opportunity to serve other people in various ways. You have loads of time to take on opportunities that you might not be able to take if you are married.
● Remember you are your own person and God made you unique. Stop comparing and look at your single season with joy. Your sister in Christ has a unique path as well. Look for ways to encourage other women of God around you. Don’t be envious at all.
● We all have shortcomings. God knows we have time of weakness or weariness. Rely on Christ strength every single day and not only when you feel like you are falling. When you rely on his strength instead of your own. Your perspective changes and your hope rises throughout your journey.
● Being single isn’t a time to complain. Find ways to be thankful and make a note of it. Make reminders on notecards or even in your phone of God’s faithfulness. Find ways to make sure you remember what God has done for you in your past. This will help you to press forward.
● Never stop being courageous and bold for the Lord. Receive God’s boldness and courage. Call out for it and don’t ever stop receiving it from the Lord.
● 1 Corinthians 15:33 (ESV)- Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
● 1 Corinthians 3: 16 (ESV)- Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?
● Hebrews 10:24-25 (ESV)- And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.
● Galatians 5:33-23 (ESV)- But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
● Psalm 139:14 (ESV)- I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
● 1 Corinthians 6:18 (ESV)- Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
● Colossians 3:5 (ESV)- Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.
● 2 Corinthians 12:9-11 (ESV)- But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
● Joshua 1:9 (ESV)- This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
● Philippians 4:13 (ESV)- I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
● 1 Corinthians 12:4-6 (ESV)- Now there are varieties of gifts, but the same Spirit; and there are varieties of service, but the same Lord; and there are varieties of activities, but it is the same God who empowers them all in everyone.
● Jeremiah 29:11 (ESV)- For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
● Romans 15:13 (ESV)- May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.
● Deuteronomy 7:9 (ESV)- Know therefore that the Lord your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments, to a thousand generations,
I remember a time in my own life about 6 years ago when God was calling me to rededicate myself to Christ. I got saved at 16 years old and learned some valuable lessons on growth and maturity. I knew at 23 years old I had to recommit myself because I wanted to embark on a whole new journey with Christ. It was a time of prayer and cleansing for me. I came out of a relationship a few months before that wasn’t of God, but God taught me how to love myself more because of it. God showed me through the process of healing that I was made for more and he wanted me to really learn who I was in Christ Jesus.
I learned through the word of God, conversations with my mom, and also conversations with Godly friends about my worth. I learned through other Christians single ministries and organizations about purity. I learned about having a passion for the things of God and how to get myself stronger in Christ. Now all of this stuff didn’t happen overnight. I went through losing friendships, crying myself to sleep, and even having to let go of the things I thought I really needed. God was pruning me and showing me that I needed only him. I remember one night when I was on my computer working on ideas for a few projects. I started to pray like never before about my calling and my purpose. I didn’t know what I was really getting into, but I knew I wanted a heavier prayer life and a deeper commitment with Christ.
As, the weeks went on the Lord started revealing to me pieces of my calling. God is still showing me and it’s a work in progress, but I remember that moment like it was yesterday. God started to show me what my purpose was and I just started to walk in it. I wanted to also tell single Christian women about purity, love, and Jesus Christ. I didn’t know this part of my purpose was in me, but God gave me the courage to walk in it. I am still learning more about my life and learning how to serve others. Nothing is ever perfect, but God taught me through my past decisions that glory can come out of it.
I want you to look at your single season and review each point I wrote about. Look at your life and start living out the hope of Christ. No matter what you have faced during your single season know that God has a plan. It is a wonderful journey filled with so much, but God wants to show you the purpose he has for you. Each key reminder and key point will help guide you and motivate you. It is possible to stay single, saved, and standing in Salvation because I am a living witness to God helping me in my single season and he still is guiding me through. God bless your singleness and know it’s never in vain.
Hanah St.Rose is a Christian Blogger and writer. She is working on books to help Christians and especially single Christian women during their season of singleness. She has a writing blog company called Christian Women Who Adore Writing. She is constantly on a mission to serve her community and help everyone around her.