Last night was one of the toughest nights in conversation for me, and my husband. we talked about his infidelity, and what lead up to him leaving our home, and We both did not start off setting out to talk about it.
So this is how we stumbled on to the conversation….
We were watching this show, and in one of the segments a couple were discussing what happed while they took a break in their marriage, and the guy confessed that he slept with someone else while they were not together, and he thought that his girlfriend was going to be upset, and frantic, but instead she forgave him; but to his surprise she revealed that she too had slept with someone else while they were taking a break, and this is when Mr. Black turned to me with this look of shock.
He did not say anything he just kept looking at me, and I spoke to him while asking him what was wrong we broke out into a discussion that was not suppose to take place. He wanted to know if while we were seperated did I step out on him, and honestly I didn’t, but due to this freaken show he said well the girlfrined would have never revealed what she did if the guy would have neber told her the truth.
I really was upset which mad me begin this heated discussion of his infidelity, and the fact that it left me in a place of uncertainty. He just looked at me, and readmitted that his actions we not right to do, and we talked a bit more, and we ended up going to sleep very angery with each other.
The moral of today’s prayer dicussion is never allow outside information draw itself into your marriage, because it can cause such a dysfunctional dialogue within the communication aspect of your marriage.
This morning I ask that you direct the path in our honesty, and in our understanding when it comes to the process of dealing with raw truth in communication, but plese allow compassion to ignite itself. Father lead us in your wisdom when we speak, and allow our actions to show love where there is none found. I pray these things in Jesus’ name. Amen